Boundaries... hmmm. I find boundaries very intriguing. Many times we set them, yet don't follow them. Or we want them but don't know how to put them in play.
I tend to be someone who takes 147 things on at once. (Super Woman, duh! Or not...)
I forget about the boundaries and how important they are. They assist me in being happy and healthy, so why do I forget about them? Thank God for my sweet Guardian Angel, Rebecca for politely reminding me of just how important boundaries are.
Trust me, it's not cute when I do forget. I recently lost my shit over Rummikub! haha I can laugh about it now, but it was no laughing matter then. Obviously it wasn't about Rummikub, but that was the last straw - arguing over rules for 17 minutes was something else!
When I neglect my boundaries I get sensitive, exhausted and angry. (Grrrrr)
I apologized and let my loved ones know it probably won't be my last ("I'm going to do what everyone thinks I'm going to do..... FREAK OUT") moment, but hopefully it's placed, and mitigated, in a better setting next time. lol
Boundaries for me:
1. Don't bite off more than you can chew.
Stop going, going and going and trying to fit any and all things in small amounts of time. There IS tomorrow and it CAN wait! You are NOT the Energizer Bunny. (Say whaaaat?!)
2. Surround yourself with only those who bring you up.
We all need anchors and I have one of the best, but we also need friends, family - all company really - that inspire, love, and assist us with this life.
3. Kindly let others know when they are breaching your boundaries.
People may not even realize it but they are ENERGY SUCKING the shit out of you! Learn to disconnect and stand by your boundaries.
4. Treat all equally when it comes to your boundaries.
Be fair. If you don't allow one person to cross your boundary, don't allow another. Example: Friends in the group that fight. Ya'll figure your ish out before either one of you comes back on this side of the fence. Love ya, but aint nobody got time for that!
5. Don't forget you.
Whether others agree with your boundaries or not, that is on them. You do what you need to do to make you happy and healthy. Also, be aware... when getting angry who are we really angry at? Someone else's actions or yourself? I found myself getting angry, only because people don't handle things the way I do; that's not about them and of course about me. I have seen the light!
At the end of the day, the ONLY person you are responsible for is you.
At the end of the day, the ONLY person you are responsible for is you.
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