HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!! Or…. February. This year has started out
great, then again I think the beginning of the year is always pretty smooth
sailing. Maybe it’s my birthday… I love birthday months! We had a PJ party this year.
Last year was a really weird year for me. I feel like the
last four years of my life I have had a lot of BIG changes. Apparently, I’m not
as good with change as I thought. (Insert confused look here 😖)
I was thinking about this lately, wondering why last year felt
so different. Because of course, I think I must have answers (good luck)! But
taking inventory, I really need to give myself a break – yet, don’t we all?
I started Life Coaching, was trying to have a baby, ended a
3.5 year relationship, did all sorts of counseling/training, dealt with some
unexpected debt, traveled (a lot), got laid off from L-3 after 13 years,
started a new relationship and got engaged, started a job that I thought was IT
only to find out it wasn’t what I thought and resigned, dealt with unemployment
for a while focusing on Life Coaching and Microblading, I am raising a teenager (I
mean, that in itself is something else!) and finally got life back to “normal” with returning to a
regular 9-5 job. Bringing us to today. Phew….
I’ve been really hard on myself over the past few years
thinking thoughts like “Who am I?” “What is it I really want?” “What career is
next?” etc. etc. I really tried to do the self-employed thing but lets face it,
benefits are a great luxury. I still do Life Coaching and Brows on my free
time.
Looking back I didn’t realize just how much I had done. That’s
a lot! So why has it taken me FOUR years to reflect and give credit? Last year
I sort of hit a breaking point. I had a pretty big fight with some of my
closest friends, was not very nice to some of the people I adore most, and
found myself getting jealous in my relationship. Haha Jealousy – so dumb.
I know letting go is extremely hard for many of us and I’ve learned
a new technique from Mr. Chopra that I wanted to share with you. It helps with breaking conditioning and taking
responsibility. I’m a huge believer of taking responsibility and totally believe
we are a co-creator in this life. It may sound like a whole lot of bitching
above - or like I playing the victim to my circumstances - but please know I am
not. He explains a series of steps that really seem to assist
with the process like this:
- When you notice you are feeling an emotion you aren’t fond of, WITNESS IT.
- BE PRESENT with you feeling. Don’t let it control you and fall into that hellish cycle of negative self-talk that cycles around in your head like a tornado. Focus on where you actually feel it in your body. Do you feel it in your head? Your heart? Your stomach? This helps you stop the overanalyzing and staying present. And wherever you feel it says something about where in your Chakra's your energy may be stuck.
- LABEL your feeling in a way that takes responsibility. Don’t use words like disappointment or betrayed. Those are victim feelings. Are you feeling Anger? Guilt? Sadness? Grief? Shame? Rejection?
- EXPRESS your feeling. Then get three pieces of paper and write down how you are feeling from your perspective and why. Then write down the situation from the other person(s) perspective. Finally, write down the perspective of a third party who is trying to assist in mediating and assisting you both with one more perspective.
- SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCE with someone you trust.
- Create a LETTING GO RITUAL, Let go Ritual. Create a ritual and tell yourself you are free. This can be throwing the letters in a fire or river and watching it float away.
- CELEBRATE!!! Celebrate letting go. Be proud of yourself for escaping the past by filling in the present with new action.
If you don’t know, being present is truly the only thing that
is real. Everything else is an illusion.
I hope that this is something that is of use to you, it has
really helped me!
I wish you all the very best this year!
<3
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