Why not do this daily?
I was never one to “settle down” in any relationship, there
was a lot of boredom and a means to an end in relationships to me. I was not ready to take the chance but to,
“play it safe” was my choice. I grew, I
learned, I had “karma” bite me in the ass and then I was ready to take a
leap.
When I met Brittany I fell in love from that very first
moment. We sat, laughed, she
complimented me as I did her, we nervously touched, smiled, and I noticed one
thing about her that no other woman had.
Substance.
I wanted to make her my Valentine every
day...<3
We as humans grow out of our selfish patterns and decide
to take a leap of faith in a lover, partner, and spouse, whatever you would
like to call it.
"I have realized that you meet your match in a partner that is not a mirror of yourself but someone who fills you with the desire to grow."There are times we let ourselves slip....and fight to remember the smallest moments that fill our hearts. We need a steady reminder that you choose the LIFE you LIVE.
I have a mini confession, I recently forgot all the little things and let our busy lives get the best of me.... (But I'm back!)
Sooo....
On this journey I have held on so tight trying to control each moment and
hoping that somehow my thoughts and efforts will make a medical miracle. (I have to realize that my thoughts alone will not make a baby in her belly. Hahaha!)
This started to wear on me and the fact that I have no control over most of this process.
I know that all you can do is trust that God will work his magic in our direction and
the Universe will help with the right timing and bless us with a beautiful
baby.
Valentine's Day has oddly enough brought me back to reality.
We often forget to cherish and celebrate all the great
moments in life with the one you love most.
"Why not have the intention that every day is as special as Valentine’s Day?"
I wanted to blog today and share with you some personal thoughts but also a series that Tony Robbins and his wife shared. It talks about how to keep your relationship alive and lasting. There is a link at the bottom if you want to actually listen to them, but I also took some notes if you prefer to get the short version.
Enjoy J
5 Disciplines of Love:
Discipline of Unconditional Love and Passion-
ü
Put your lover 1st
a. You have problems because you are focused on
yourself and not your partner
b.
It’s not about you
c.
My lover comes first always
d.
Put their needs before your own
Discipline of Absolute Courage and Vulnerability-
ü
Learn to
love no matter what
a.
You tell the truth, you open up
b.
Courage
c.
You don’t ever place pain on anyone
d. Vulnerability =’s Power
Discipline of Positive Intent-
ü
You know
the deeper truth that is a new blame game
a.
I know my partner’s soul
b.
No matter what happens you serve your partner
c.
The intent is to get closer
d.
Shift to empowering meanings, never a negative
intent
e.
NO BLAME GAME-take responsibility (goes both
ways)
f. Owning up on things, use the word “I” – even if
it wasn’t your intent
g.
HUMAN BEHAVIOR IS NOT A REFLECTION OF THE HUMAN
SPIRIT
§
It is the animal inside of us that gives us those negative or selfish emotions.
h.
Know that your partner always has a pure
INTENT.
i. DO NOT QUESTION INTENT!
Discipline of Honorable Language and Moment to Moment
Awareness-
ü
There is
POWER in LOVE, ADDERATION, AND PRAISE
a.
Be aware the impact you have on your language
(body language, words, deeds)
b.
Information with emotion is remember forever
c.
Words are powerful – KEEP NEGATIVES BANNED FROM RELATIONSHIP
§
Never
threaten the end of the relationship!
§
Never use slang, negative/demeaning words
towards your partner
Discipline of Giving Freedom-
ü
Power of
FORGIVING, FORGETING and FLOODING
a.
Forgiveness is when you realize you gave a
meaning that doesn’t match reality
b.
Forget the negative and flood more
c.
Flooding – Capturing all the beautiful moments!! Showing appreciation for who you are and your
relationship. Have gratitude and deep
feelings! Remember how it feels.
§
Flood yourself with emotion
§
Journal these moments
§
Talk to each other about what you are grateful
for, frame these great moments
§
Sets the bar higher
§
Celebrate and remember!
PUT LOVE FIRST; LOVE MORE THAN YOU’RE RULES, OPEN UP!
Daily Discipline of Passion and Playfulness-
a.
Break open each other’s hearts
b.
Be crazy, playful, laugh together
c.
Do the unexpected
d.
Have variety to keep the passion
e.
Constantly break the pattern
f. NOVELTY!
a.
Have polarity
§
Presence- is connection, calmness in the connection,
radiance for your partner
§
Strength =’s Energy
§
Look at each other and admire and love one
another
§
Appreciate
what you see in your lover
a.
Bringing it all together
b.
Having the passion
c.
Giving the effort to stay consistent
d.
Balance your relationship with these disciplines
to be successful and lasting
e.
Keep it fun!
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